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The most tragic thing about our society is whenever people find someone enjoying or wearing a trendy and fashionable dress, talking with opposite sex or doing anything different, the typical and stupid people of our society start taking them in the wrong manner. I have seen many times but there is an incident which I can’t forget.

 

 

I was studying MBA at a college in New Delhi, India where we friends used to enjoy, hang out and cheer life obviously as we were college going guys and living a youth age. We had a beautiful and charming girl as our classmate. She was so beautiful that anybody can fall in love. She was intelligent too but she had a bad habit which is actually not bad but bad in the eyes of our society that she used to cheer her life without any boundaries and limitations and she used to hang out with her male friends and used to attend late night parties.

 

Frankly speaking, I was in love. I fell for her seeing her beauty, intelligence and especially her behavior. She used to treat every people so decently. I was so stupid, an introvert who cannot even express his feelings to a girl. Whenever she talks to me, I used to lose my all senses.

 

I always watched her doing certain sporty activities with her friends, teasing teachers, bunking classes was so common for her. She used to drink alcohol, go for night outs with male friends, parties, abusing are also common for her. She had an angry nature too. She used to fight with boys but she was so polite with those who treat her in a polite manner.

 

She used to come to college in short dresses and I was well-known that people are backbiting about her, some guys are passing cheap comments and people had a bad thinking about her, some used to call her as a slut, some as modern girl, spoiled and uncivilized girl. I will speak the truth, somewhere I was also one who used to criticize about her dressing sense.

 

Her growing fun and frolic were making bad views of people regarding her and the tragic thing was that some guys began to misuse her. I was noticing everything at that time but I was silent.

 

One day I heard from one guy that she wears short dresses just to impress and attract boys of her college and her society. He stated that she is a slut; she wants boys to run behind her that’s why she likes to talk with everyone and go for night outs with her friends. At that time, I came into consciousness and I realized who the hell we are to give a “character certificate” to a girl just by looking her dress and her extrovert behavior.

 

Is living a life and cheering with friends a shameful and crappy act? Bullshit, of course not. We all are free and we all have equal right to live and cheer our life. We’re not doing anything bad until we’re breaking the law.

 

When I saw that guy telling such words about that girl, I lost my control and we had a verbal fight on this matter. I stopped him and said the same words as I stated above and he misunderstood by saying “are you her agent?” I again called him to take his words back but he is not gonna understand. At last, I thought it’s worthless to argue with morons so I left the place and seated at Canteen.

 

She was a good girl by behavior, she was just cherishing her life, enjoying the moments but our society is so poor in understanding the definition of a Slut. On the next day, when I met her, I told her about all those things that guy was telling about her. Unexpectedly, she laughed and told me that in 24 hours, she hears such kind of words about her daily in college and by her neighbors. But she does not give values to their words because she and her family know what is acceptable and what is bad.

 

She also said to me that all these things are so little to care about in her life. I felt happy and relaxed after her words and I thought how easy and meaningful her perspectives are. She was really a smart girl and very easy about his life.

 

After someday, we had a college festival where she and her friends were enjoying and dancing on the stage. I was looking them; she was looking so charming in that red dress. I was happy to see her enjoying but I was in anger looking those flirty guys around her touching, and flirting with her in a cheap manner. She was also angry seeing their behavior but those guys were pampering her calling themselves her friends.

 

  There was no authority there and suddenly I found, one of them kissed her cheeks. I thought he is her friend, so it’s okay. But that act made her angrier and made her slap that guy. I stood up and all people started looking at them. She scolded him and said, “What the hell is this, why did you kissed me without my permission”. That guy was as cruel as he answered “why did you slap me” I came to them and was looking all these things.

 

She replied, “You have no right to touch me and I will slap you again if you do the same thing”. That guy came into anger and his reply made me angry too. He said, “Don’t be so innocent, you can go for outing with us in a night, stay in the same room during a tour, drink alcohol with us, abuse with us but my single kiss hurt you”. I lost my control and I said: “Dude, what is the connection between kissing her without her permission and all these things, if she agrees to hang out, drinking alcohol with you guys doesn’t mean that you own her and she is ready to do everything”. The guy replied to me “Hey, you just keep quiet, it’s our matter, not yours, it was just a kiss and you guys are making a scene”.

 

One of her friends convinced us to move on and enjoy the festival, and she again told to that guy “I’ll never tolerate the same thing from next time” and left the place. When she was leaving I found that guy calling her “Slut”, I replied him back “Dude, mind your language” and left too.

 

From next days, I found her in a huge distance with that guy and it was really good as that guy doesn’t deserve her.

 

She became my friend and still, she is my friend. I don’t want to propose her as I am not even sure my family will accept an inter-caste girl (that’s another problem too). But we’re happy as a friend and we both loves each other’s company.

 

I just want to say that when a girl wears a short dress and does all the fun, you call her a Slut and when you cheaply flirt with her and try to molest then what people should call you?

 

Wearing a short skirt, cheering life and enjoying is neither a crime nor a shameful act. We people should change our views, it’s essential.

 

 

Contributed By: Mihir Dubey, New Delhi